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内心的一個疑惑

有一個感覺隱藏在心裏有一段時間,一直放在某處,沒有釐清。直至看到紐約時報這篇名為Love People, Not Pleasure的文章。我不是被文章的旨意所打動(追求快樂要向内尋,而非外求這個説法,我也明白),而是被文内一段談及現代人利用社交媒體“求名”的分析所打動。

作者Arthur C Brooks這樣說:

Today, each of us can build a personal little fan base, thanks to Facebook, YouTube, Twitter and the like. We can broadcast the details of our lives to friends and strangers in an astonishingly efficient way. That’s good for staying in touch with friends, but it also puts a minor form of fame-seeking within each person’s reach. And several studies show that it can make us unhappy.

It makes sense. What do you post to Facebook? Pictures of yourself yelling at your kids, or having a hard time at work? No, you post smiling photos of a hiking trip with friends. You build a fake life — or at least an incomplete one — and share it. Furthermore, you consume almost exclusively the fake lives of your social media “friends.” Unless you are extraordinarily self-aware, how could it not make you feel worse to spend part of your time pretending to be happier than you are, and the other part of your time seeing how much happier others seem to be than you?

我說的放在心上的感受,就是上述兩段文字所指向的,那種因爲朋友在whatsapp和facebook等分享所產生的感覺:似乎朋友都生活得很好,唯獨自己好像沒她們生活得那樣好。内心會因而飄過一絲疑惑,有時甚至不快,雖然感覺一飄就過去。但當下一次朋友又接二連三分享幸福的時候,那一絲疑惑和不快難免又起。

我不愛在社交媒體分享自己的生活,所以承受的只是一方面的不快。那些愛在社交媒體分享美好生活的人,則要承受兩方面的不快:一方面假裝(或片面地相信)你的生活比日常生活要快樂,同時感受其他人比自己快樂。

或者我們都要自問一下,我們的生活真的是我們擺在facebook上,或放在whatsapp上的照片所代表的幸福嗎? 這種分享真的讓你快樂嗎?

反躬自問,個人的自覺力還是弱,若能看破表層,疑惑和不快又豈應有?不過,最直接的解決方法還是少用社交媒體。太勞神,太浪費時間了吧? 何況還有帶來不快之虞。

One reply on “内心的一個疑惑”

that’s why I am not active on facebook or other social media. Rather call them or hang out with them…

Wearing too many musks tend to stress oneself maintaining that mask.

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